Posts Tagged ‘childbirth’

Today is my nephew’s birthday. A birthday, in general, is a day to celebrate the gift of life with family and friends. It is a good day to reflect back on the previous year(s) and remind ourselves that life moves at wharp speed.

Life Moves Fast

My nephew, Noah, turns 10 today, and while we all celebrate the fact that Noah is in our life, we are also reminded of the fact that today is also the day that his mother, our beloved sister, lost her life today as well; giving birth to Noah.

Kim lost her life due to an Amniotic Fluid Embolism (AFE). This is a very rare complication and the mortality rate is high, but getting better every year. The issue with an AFE is that the medical community has yet to find out a direct cause, and causation is the first step to finding a treatment and all but eradicating the mortality rate. Since this is one of the top 5 mortalities in childbirth, the attention to researching this issue is on the medical communities radar.

In todays age of modern technology and medical advancements, we tend to forget the miracle that childbirth really is. Women head in to the delivery room, go through labor (please do not take this as it is easy and not painful), and bring another life into this world…easy as 1, 2, 3 medically speaking right? Well, no not really. There are a myriad of “complications” that can take place. Usually things go as planned and when issues to rear their ugly head, the hospital staff is well equipped to deal with it to keep mom and baby safe. For this we should all be grateful.

I ask that you consider looking in to what you can do to contribute to helping us fight the AFE “battle”. The Northshore University System here in Chicago is asking for help in dealing with AFE research.

The Need For More ResearchAmniotic Fluid Embolism kills or injures several hundred mother-baby pairs in the United States every year. Research is needed to understand the cause of the disease so that it can be prevented or more effectively treated. Yet the importance of AFE extends far beyond its devastated victims. At the present, there are no broadly accepted theories or mechanisms explaining how women can tolerate the presence of their fetus—50% of which comes from an unrelated father.

To make a tax deductable donation simple click on the link below and under gift designation, check off, “research institute.” Under gift comments, simply indicate “AFE research.”

Here is the direct link: https://www.northshore.org/apps/auxfound/MakeDonation.aspx?lid=2246

And, more importantly, always remember that a birthday is more than just a time to get together. It is about celebrating all the joy your loved ones have brought into your life. Be thankful that you are rich, for rich doesn’t come from money, rather it comes from health. And celebrating a birthday means that the “riches” of your family and friends have lasted another year!

So, Happy Birthday Noah. We love you very much. And Kim, we miss you and think of you often. Thank you for the gift you have given us in Noah.


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This post is to help all guys as they progress through their significant other’s pregnancy….and trust me, it is THEIR pregnancy. Your role in this miracle of life is to be there for support and do whatever it is you are told, period.

When you are married you will have a to-do list and never complete it; won’t even come close. But it is all good though. The point is not to finish, rather, it is to show progress and the list itself. I have been married for almost 11 marvelous years; short I know, but I have learned that lists are key. Let me say that again, lists are key.

Don’t believe me? Ask your significant other and she will rattle off a myriad of items that need to be done.

My wife and I are expecting our 3rd, a little girl, any day now. Once you go through a pregnancy together you learn a few things. The following are excerpts from the lists I kept handy at all times. I broke them down per trimester for ease of use. So guys, pay attention so you can provide the right support for your wife during the 9 months of pregnancy.

The Beginning

First Trimester List:

  • Fluff the pillows
  • Watch the Road
  • Redecorate – Now would be a good time ti learn a bit about Interior Design
  • Redecorate Again
  • Do what I say
  • Admire my ass
  • Walk the cat
  • Turn off the alarm
  • Drop your attitude – You may not think you have one, but you do, so drop it
  • Appease me
  • Deal with it
  • Fix it – This will come up often and is a catch-all. You can never be too prepared so have your household tools at the ready
  • Trust me
  • Do it faster – You will never do it fast enough. Just keep trying
  • Cut your toenails – Maybe this just applies to me?
  • Let me sleep in-  you will hear this at varous times throughout the day
  • Get off the computer – If you work at home, you will receive IM’s about this
  • Kill that spider
  • Adopt a French accent – I would try Rosetta stone and find French people on Skype and practice with them
  • Make more money – Refer to redecorating and this will make perfect sense (my expereince – Prior to our second child, Kate, we installed hardwood floors top to bottom and re-painted the entire house…seriously we did)
  • Get rid of your junk – Yes it is junk
  • Humor me
  • Get me a drink
  • Let me finish
  • Hold this – it could be a wrapper of piece of chewed gum
  • Do what I say
  • Shut your mouth
  • Rub harder

The Middle

Second Trimester List

  • Stop sulking
  • Love me forever
  • Go to the store – You better hope it is open 24 hours
  • Pretend you’re listening
  • Admire my ass
  • Blow your nose
  • Flirt with me
  • Watch the road
  • Turn left at the light – What light?
  • Keep your voice down
  • Don’t Smoke
  • Cheer up
  • Hold me
  • Change faster
  • Grow a spine
  • Answer the phone
  • Call me back
  • Look it up
  • Answer me
  • Be a team player
  • Embrace difference
  • Pluck
  • Stop counting my carbs
  • Count your carbs
  • Take a pill
  • Grow it out
  • Turn off the light
  • Force the issue
  • Appease me
  • Call your mother
  • Change your ring tone – Guess vibrate is annoying
  • Feign jealousy
  • Tell me the truth

The End

Third Trimester List:

  • Tell me I am smart
  • Never say never
  • Convert
  • Eschew Martyrdom
  • Bend over
  • Cover your eyes
  • Project confidence
  • Prioritize
  • Learn CPR
  • Sleep on the couch – The king size bed sometimes isn’t enough room for two people
  • Consider me your muse
  • Predict the future
  • Be there for me
  • Speak up
  • Shut your mouth
  • Judge not
  • Act on impulse
  • Prepare a thorough plan
  • Stop the rain
  • Plot the escape route
  • Increase my joy
  • Transcend
  • Get a new personality
  • Carry me piggyback
  • Stop swearing
  • Learn to fly
  • Sprinkle it with sunshine
  • Be aggressive
  • Be passive
  • Be passive-aggressive
  • Renounce desire
  • Get your hands off me
  • Come home – This happens frequently after being told to go to the store and while you are still in the driveway
  • Caveat emptor – Take the definition literally
  • Finish me off
  • Walk on water

There is no doubt that you will be a busy husband during the pregnancy…remember I said excerpt of the lists.

All kidding aside; children are a blessing, help you maintain perspective, teach you what’s important in life, make you laugh (and cry!), and keep you super busy. What my wife has gone through to bring our kids into this world is nothing short of amazing. Hopefully she will get a little chuckle when she reads and reflects back on 27 months of pure craziness!

So what is on your list? Did you keep a list? Let me know. Thanks for reading.

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